Psychological Issues: Self blame
Blaming Oneself, The list below shows the difference between the harmful effects of anxiety’s negative thoughts and the more useful positive thoughts that may help in times of stress.
Whats wrong with that I hear you saying,?…
Is it not better to blame myself than put the blame on to another person.
Well, it may be better if you could develop a positive attitude toward yourself rather than continually self blaming…
- POSITIVE
- I can meet this challange
- I can learn to cope with these feelings.
- These awful feelings do not mean something dreadful is
about to happen to me. - Even if I make a fool of myself it is not the end of the world.
- I am learnig to cope with this situation.
- These terrible feelings will pass.
- I am going to stay here and face this feeling.
- I am not doing badly at all.
- NEGATIVE
- I am really going mad.
- These feelings are out of control.
- I feel so awful I just know something dreadful
is going to happen to me - I will make myself look a complete fool.
- I will never learn to cope with this situation.
- I feel terrible…things are beyond my control.
- I really ought to get away from here I do not feel well.
- I seem to be getting steadily worse.
Other examples of positive thinking could include…
* Relax I am in control,
* One step at a time,
* I am really pleased with my progress,
Every day in every way, I am getting better and better.
This last example was one of the Mantra pioneered by the french pharmacist Émile Coué… February 1857–July 1926
“A very important part of positive thinking is patting yourself on the back from time to time… this is a good way of building up your self confidence.”